I actually like the Athena hairstyle on Jaxy. Of course, I use the male version of the mesh a lot on my male sims, so I'm probably a tad biased.

As for hair conversions, Buffybot has some conversions of Raonjena's male hair meshes at DL Mulsow's under Buffybot's Bits (I think I spelled all that right), but they're still very feminine despite being conversions.